If we are not changed by grace, then we are not saved by grace.
There are no distinctions of affection in the divine family. We are all loved just as fully as Jesus is loved. It is like a fairy story — the reigning monarch adopts waifs and strays and makes princes of them. But, praise God, it is not a fairy story: it is hard and solid fact, founded on the bedrock of free and sovereign grace. . . . No wonder John cries, “Behold, what manner of love!”
I have heard it said that some men love theology more than they love God. Do not let it be possible to say that of you. Love theology, of course, but love theology for no other reason than that it is theology — the knowledge of God, and because it is your meat and drink to know God, to know Him truly, and as far as it is given to mortals, to know Him whole.