The Puritan ethic of marriage was first to look not for a partner whom you do love passionately at this moment but rather for one whom you can love as steadily as your best friend for life, then to proceed with God’s help to do just that.
When men and women are about to be married how much of life then trembles in the balances! Upon the choice of a partner in life the fashion of that life may depend. Whether self or Christ, the world or God, shall be the master-motive of the household, may be decided by the finger which wears the plain gold ring.
Marriage is not mainly about being or staying in love. It’s mainly about telling the truth with our lives. It’s about portraying something true about Jesus Christ and the way he relates to his people. It’s about showing in real life the glory of the gospel.